Also read the ‘other people shoulds’ you wrote down and ask if any of these are in fact what you believe you should be doing.
If so, don’t be surprised. What you want for others, particularly loved ones, is often what you want for yourself.
To take this one step further, turn these other ‘shoulds’ into ‘coulds’. How do you feel?
Next time you are frustrated or challenged by what someone else is doing, or not doing, remember to use ‘could’ instead of ‘should’. Doing so will take you beyond the need to control other people’s choices.
That is freedom!